Last Sunday, during the Father’s Day sermon, my pastor, Dr. Robert Childress, of the Covenant Glen United Methodist Church, posed the following question to the congregation, “How do you see your kids?” Because, according to Pastor Childress, how you see them is how you relate to them and ultimately shape their lives. Personally, I tend to agree with Dr. Childress’ viewpoint.
Dr. Childress went on to say, if you view your children as a burden because they are preventing you from going to the club or nabbing a suitable mate, your feelings will undoubtedly be apparent in your dealings with your kids. On the other hand, if you treat your children like the blessings from God that they are, they will act like a blessing and ultimately become a blessing to you.
Basically, the trick is to get your children to see themselves as you see them. If you see them as a doctor, lawyer, teacher or business owner, that is what they will strive to become. And who cares if they fall a little short of a particular goal, at least they are striving for excellence. So what if they have to settle for greatness.
Now, if on the flipside, you constantly tell your kids that they are just like their deadbeat daddy or no good momma, chances are they won’t want to prove you wrong. Subjecting your child to such a pessimistic attitude and negative speech is a sure fire way to set your child on a path of failure.
Kids dream without limits. That is, until careless and loose lipped adults place caps on the child’s ambition. Keep in mind that, children, especially really young ones, are very impressionable. So if you tell them that they will never amount to anything they will believe you. If you attribute every bad thing they do to some demon seed embedded in their DNA, they will resign themselves to failure. After all why should they try to better themselves, if they are predestined to fail?
For all of us, who have been subjected to low expectations and discouraging speech, Pastor Childress has an uplifting message for us. His final point to the congregation was that we should learn to see ourselves as our Heavenly Father sees us. If we invoke this theology, in our lives, we can achieve anything that we set our minds to. The sky is the limit. Remember this mantra “I Can Do All Things Through Christ Who Strengthens Me” (Philippians 4:13).
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